A Call to (Open) Arms

This week we’re talking about youth, particularly because we celebrated birthdays recently. This subject has been on my mind recently, as I have been observing my young peers. Perhaps it is the location, the time, the groups, the individuals, but I’ve been noticing a lack of balance in my peer groups. I am beginning to wonder why. Why are we all so divided on the spectrum? Here’s what I’m seeing and here’s what I mean.

On One Side: Blatant ignorance. Some of my peers focus on drinking, going out, materialism, personal gain, superior complexes, lack of interest in current events/social issues. Specific examples include:

-A coworker asking me “What is a republican?”. Which on a side note, is really hard for me to answer without bias, as I immediately jump to my personal frustration with the current Republican party.

-General attitude of arrogance and lack of a “welcoming” in group dynamics. In groups especially I see/feel competitiveness in play- who can talk louder, who can have the most dramatic story, who can hold the most attention, etc.

-Despite our abundance of recycling bins at work, co-workers throw the recyclables away because the trash bin is closer and easier to get to!

It seems that when it comes to doing something for the betterment of society, we are lazy. BUT when it comes to getting something for ourselves (not necessarily to better ourselves)- i.e. attention, money, material items, etc we are over doing it. Why?

On the Other Side: Extreme judgement. The focus on the this side: Serious demeanor, judgmental attitude, quick to criticize, and also, unwelcoming. Even with the most noble causes, if you exclude people and make them feel stupid for not already joining in your group/cause/idea, then you discourage us to not change or to not be involved in our community. Specific examples include:

-One of my dear friends is a great and dedicated activist. However, when we have discussions this person can’t believe I don’t already believe in what they are saying. This person makes me feel stupid, guilty, and inferior. Let’s help each other. We can listen and teach each other without guilt. Love and respect will lead all to action.

-Activist groups “teaching” youth with condescending attitude. I have seen this a lot.

-I've tried to volunteer with a few groups in the city. It is really hard to being new to a group and feeling like you have to prove yourself to them in order to be included.

To all of my peers (and a reminder to myself) I propose these things:

1.) Lighten up! Laugh! Value laughter and fun and dance and smiles!
2.) Unconditional love- accept those who are around us and offer help. Someone showing up, us showing up is enough and is a good start.
3.) Be gentle in your words. We have much to learn from each other and we have much to teach each other.
4.) Education! Let’s know our shit and then make it better.

Let’s be serious about learning and loving. Balance.